Communication

The ability to Communicate with people is a universal difficulty, and by that I mean, most of everyone that I know, including myself, has issues with it. It seems, however, to be an obstacle we choose on a daily basis to want to expose ourselves to. Every single day we make unusual choices that involve other people, because every single day we have little choice but to involve ourselves with the daily lives of other people. I understand that the exposure can be frustrating. Day-in and day-out there is nowhere we can go to get away from anybody, ever. It is natural for us to be overwhelmed with this constant openness. We innately relate the circumstances of the universe with our own day-to-day lives on an extremely person level and assume that everyone is in our way as a result; we become so overexposed that we also feel that we don’t have to explain anything to anyone. That these people should already just know how we feel, because, like I said, its innate. What we forget-or ignore-is the fact that the only thing any one of us really has in common is one another and that’s because we cannot escape the overflow. Telling one anther what we are thinking or feeling becomes the single most tedious and difficult part of our day-to-day lives, it takes a little effort, it is easier not to worry about but it’s also probably the most important conscious decision we make throughout our day-to-day lives.

Making a conscious decision to communicate what we are thinking with people may, on occasion, result in hurting a persons feelings. I can assure you though that making that conscious, honest, choice will go over much better than the unconscious, innate, lack of thought that is the alternative. In life, you-whomever you are-will, at some point, hurt somebody’s feelings, I can promise you that, and you will also have your feelings hurt. There isn’t a person alive who will not upset another human being time, and again. As difficult as it may seem being honest and expressing your feelings or opinions about a person, positive or negative, is undeniably important. You will also find yourself in difficult or uncomfortable positions that people will put you in that will require you to say No, to be honest, and to make a little effort. So say no, be honest, and please show a little bloody effort.

I sit at a coffeehouse several hours every day and watch how we react with one another. I often wonder what some of these people are thinking, it’s sometimes sickening. And sure if you are like me there are those occasions when you just allow your innate default setting to take over. You ignore everyone and are concerned only with your own well-being, but even then it crosses my mind, and eventually, I start to consider another person situation. Instead of assuming that a person is an arrogant, unconcerned sonuvabitch I give them the benefit of the doubt considering that though they are obviously not considering mine or anyone else’s presence, they may be so consumed with thought about a dying sister or brother that they have just forgotten. In that, or any situation, there is still no reason for me to act like a robot. I am capable of being conscious and considerate and I know that I can manage without expecting anything of anyone. I am capable for no other reason than that I can, and I am willing. I cannot claim to be the best at anything, especially at communication, and my intention isn’t to lecture you. Instead I’d like to suggest to you the difference communicating to one another, especially if its difficult, can make on our personal relationships and globally. Taking a second to think about, and not work on your innate default setting, another persons situation, and communicating your own.